Men On The Move

Happy Tuesday #Jontourage,

Welcome back to the “Classy Gent Chronicles”, where staying classy is the only way to be. It’s been over two years since my last blog post so I am excited to be writing again. Blogging was always cathartic for me but sometimes life happens and before you know it, it’s been two years since you last did something you once enjoyed.  Ironically enough, my blog topic today is on what got me blogging again. So with that being said, let’s jump into it.

So boom, I’m on Instagram one day (I spent way too much time on Instagram) and I see a commercial for the new VH1 show “Girls Cruise” starring Lil Kim, Chilli and my favorite Mya. For anyone who knows me, it’s no secret that I am a huge Mya fan. If you don’t believe me, check this blog out  https://www.authorjon.com/blog/mya-classy-creative-cool Now that we have gotten that out of the way, once I saw that “Girls Cruise” commercial, I knew that I was watching. The show focused seven people on a trip traveling through the Caribbean on a cruise ship. What I thought was going to be another standard reality television show filled with over the top theatrics ended up changing my perspective on a lot of things. The biggest lesson I took away from the show is that I wasn’t meant to go through my journey alone and it’s okay to be vulnerable with people you can trust.

That show got me thinking about the areas I need growth in and why I have been struggling with them for so long. The show “Girls Cruise” really got me wondering, why is it that women can come together to support each other with goals whereas guys do not come together as much unless it’s for a social occasion (playing video games, going to the bar, watching the game on tv, etc.)?  Men but especially men of color generally do not like opening up to others about their weak areas for fear of ridicule. A lot of times, we do not accomplish our goals because we get stuck and don’t want anyone to know that we are stuck so we don’t ask for help along the way. Before you know it, that clothing line never came out, that song never dropped, and that book never got published.

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